Okay, so folks have asked me how I started using tarot cards, especially for questions about love and relationships. It wasn’t some big mystical calling or anything. Honestly, I was just curious and a bit stuck in my own head about someone, years back.
Getting Started with the Cards
I remember getting my first deck. It felt a bit weird, holding these cards with all the pictures. Didn’t really know what I was doing. I just read the little booklet that came with it, but that felt kinda stiff. So, I decided to just… go with it. My way.
First thing I always do is just sit down somewhere quiet. No big ritual, just maybe take a few deep breaths. Helps clear the head, you know? Then I grab my deck. I’ve used the same Rider-Waite deck for ages now, it feels comfortable.
I shuffle the cards. A lot. I don’t have a fancy way of doing it, just a regular overhand shuffle, sometimes a messy pile shuffle on the floor if I’m feeling it. While I’m shuffling, I think about the situation, the question I have about love. Not like intensely focusing, more like just letting the thoughts drift around the topic. Like, “What’s the energy between me and this person?” or “What should I be aware of in my love life right now?”. Simple stuff.
When it feels right – and you kinda just know, hard to explain – I stop shuffling. Sometimes I cut the deck into three piles and restack them. Sometimes I just pull straight from the top. Depends on the mood.
Doing the Reading
I usually stick to a simple three-card spread. Less confusing for me. I lay them out: one, two, three. Left to right.
- Card 1: I see this as kinda like, the situation right now, or maybe the past influencing things.
- Card 2: This one feels like the main challenge or the thing I need to focus on. The core of it.
- Card 3: And this last one? I usually take it as potential outcome, or advice, or what might happen if things keep going as they are.
Then I just look at the pictures. Really look. What jumps out? Is it the colours, the people, the symbols? I don’t immediately rush to the booklet meanings anymore. I try to see what the story is between those three cards.
For example, I remember one time I pulled The Tower, the Ten of Swords, and then The Star. Oof. Looked pretty grim at first glance, right? The Tower felt like everything was falling apart with this person I was seeing. Ten of Swords? Yeah, felt like a real ending, painful. But then The Star showed up last. For me, that wasn’t about getting back together, but about finding hope after the crash and burn. Like, yeah, this is gonna suck, but there’s healing and peace on the other side if I let go.
What I’ve Found
Does it predict the future? Nah, I don’t really think so. Not like fortune telling. For me, it’s more like holding up a mirror. The cards kinda reflect back the stuff I already know deep down but maybe haven’t admitted to myself. Especially with love stuff, where it’s easy to get lost in emotions.
It helps me pause and think about things from a different angle. Sometimes the cards confirm what I’m feeling, which is validating. Other times, they show me something completely unexpected, and that makes me go “Huh, okay, maybe I need to consider that.”
It’s just a tool I use sometimes. Doesn’t run my life or make my decisions. Just gives me a little nudge or a different perspective when I feel like I’m going in circles thinking about relationship things. It’s been a pretty interesting practice, just sitting down with myself and these cards.
