Okay, so I decided to actually sit down and do one of those relationship tarot spreads the other day. Things felt a bit unclear, you know? Needed some perspective.
Getting Started
First things first, I needed a quiet spot. Went to my little corner table, cleared off the clutter. Grabbed my go-to tarot deck, the Rider-Waite, because it’s straightforward, no messing about. Held the deck for a minute, just thinking about the connection I wanted clarity on. Didn’t rush it.
Shuffling and Cutting
Then I started shuffling. Did it a few times, maybe more than usual, really trying to put my questions and energy into the cards. Felt right when I stopped. Cut the deck into three piles with my left hand, then put them back together in a different order. Standard stuff I always do.
Laying Out the Cards
I decided on a pretty common relationship spread, seven cards. It felt comprehensive enough without being overwhelming. Here’s how I laid them out:
- Card 1: Me, right now in this relationship. Placed it on the left.
- Card 2: The other person, right now. Placed it opposite Card 1, on the right.
- Card 3: How I see the connection. Placed it above the first two.
- Card 4: How they see the connection. Placed it below the first two.
- Card 5: The challenge or block. Placed it crossing Card 3.
- Card 6: The potential strength or help. Placed it crossing Card 4.
- Card 7: The likely outcome or where it’s heading. Placed it way off to the right, after Card 2.
Took my time placing each card face down in its spot. Just focused on the position and what it represented.
The Reveal and First Look
Okay, deep breath. Started turning them over one by one, in the order I laid them down. Card 1 for me… alright, saw that. Card 2 for them… hmm, interesting. Card 3, my view… yeah, that tracks. Card 4, their view… okay, slightly different vibe there. Card 5, the challenge – yep, felt that one. Card 6, the strength… good to see. And finally, Card 7, the outcome. Paused on that one for a bit.
Making Sense of It (My Way)
I didn’t immediately grab my little interpretation book. Just sat and looked at all seven cards laid out. Tried to see the story. How did Card 1 (me) relate to Card 2 (them)? How did our views (Card 3 and 4) line up or clash? Did the challenge (Card 5) seem to block the strength (Card 6)? And did that final card (Card 7) feel like a natural result of everything else?
Some connections jumped out pretty quickly. Others took a bit more staring. I noticed the suits, the numbers, the expressions on the figures. It wasn’t about finding some absolute “truth”, more like getting prompts for my own thoughts. Like, “Oh, that card suggests this aspect, have I considered that?”
Wrapping Up the Session
After spending maybe 15-20 minutes just looking and thinking, I jotted down a few notes in my journal. Not a full interpretation, just the cards that came up and my initial gut feelings about them. Didn’t want to overthink it into oblivion.
Gathered the cards back up, gave them another shuffle, and put the deck away. Didn’t magically solve everything, obviously. But the act of sitting down, focusing intention, laying out the structure, and reflecting on the specific parts – me, them, the dynamic, the issues, the potential – it definitely gave me stuff to chew on. Felt like I’d actually done something to explore the situation, rather than just letting thoughts spin around in my head. Sometimes the process itself is the most helpful part.
