Okay, let’s talk about the Chariot card showing up when you’re looking at relationships. I’ve seen this happen a bunch of times, not just in readings for others, but something I clocked in my own life way back.
I remember this phase, years ago, where everything felt like a mission. Not just work, but my relationship too. It was all about forward momentum. What’s the next step? Where are we going? Are we hitting our targets as a couple? Sounds driven, right? And it was. We got stuff done. Moved in together fast, planned big trips, always had the next objective lined up.
Pulled the Chariot card for myself during that time, doing a general reading. And bam. It hit me. That was us. Exactly us. On the surface, it looked like strength, like determination. We were the couple that was ‘going somewhere’. People said that.
But the thing is, the Chariot’s got those two sphinxes, right? Usually different colors, pulling in potentially different ways. Held together by the driver’s sheer will. That felt familiar. It started feeling like my will, mostly. I was the one pushing, setting the pace, making sure we didn’t stall. It created this weird dynamic. Less partnership, more… project management.
I noticed the strain. Little things. Disagreements that felt more like power struggles than finding common ground. A lack of just… relaxing. Just being together without an agenda. It was like we were so focused on driving the chariot, we forgot to enjoy the scenery or even check if we were both still happy with the direction.
So, my practice here involved trying to consciously pull back on the reins. I literally had to tell myself:
- Stop planning every single weekend.
- Ask more questions about feelings, not just logistics.
- Let the other person take the lead sometimes, even if it wasn’t ‘optimal’.
- Focus on the connection, not just the destination.
It was hard work. Really hard. Because that forward drive, that Chariot energy, it’s powerful. It feels productive. Slowing down felt like failing, almost. We had arguments about it. “Why are you suddenly hitting the brakes?” kind of stuff.
What happened in the end?
Well, that specific relationship didn’t last. We just couldn’t balance the energies. Too much Chariot, not enough Cups, you know? All drive, not enough flow. But the experience? That stuck with me. It became a key part of my understanding of that card in a relationship context.
Now, when I see the Chariot pop up for relationship questions, I always probe deeper. Are you guys working together, or is one person dragging the other? Are you conquering obstacles as a team, or is it a battle of wills? Is there emotional connection fueling the drive, or is it just ambition? It’s a powerful card for relationships, yeah, it can mean overcoming challenges together, strong commitment. But man, you gotta keep checking in. You gotta make sure both people are steering, or at least happy with the driver and the destination. Otherwise, you just drive straight off a cliff, looking real determined the whole way down. That’s my record on it, anyway. Learned that one the hard way.
