Okay, so I wanted to share something I did the other day. Things felt a bit confusing in a certain relationship, you know? Not bad, just… unclear. I kept mulling it over. So, I decided to pull out my tarot deck and try a simple relationship spread. Just needed to sort my own head out, really.
Getting Started
First thing, I needed some quiet. Went to my usual corner, cleared off the table. I grabbed my Rider-Waite deck – it’s old, worn, feels familiar in my hands. I don’t do fancy rituals, mostly just try to clear my head. I held the deck for a bit, just thinking about the situation, the person, what I genuinely wanted to understand. Then I started shuffling. I shuffle for quite a while, kinda letting my thoughts settle into the cards, until it feels right to stop.
Laying Out the Cards
I didn’t use a super complicated spread. Just something straightforward I’ve used before. I decided on three cards:
- Card 1: How I see the situation right now.
- Card 2: How I think the other person sees it (or their energy in it).
- Card 3: What connects us, or the core dynamic between us.
I cut the deck into three piles, then picked one. Took the top three cards from that pile. Laid them out left to right. Took a deep breath before turning them over. Always a little bit of anticipation there, isn’t there?
My Thoughts on the Pull
So, Card 1, for me, was the Four of Cups. Honestly, yeah, that felt right. I had been feeling a bit bored, maybe taking things for granted, not really engaging. Seeing that card was like a little nudge, saying “Hey, pay attention to what’s being offered.”
Card 2, for the other person, came up as the Knight of Wands. That surprised me a little. I pictured them as maybe more reserved, but this card felt energetic, passionate, maybe a bit impulsive even. It made me think, perhaps I wasn’t seeing their side clearly at all? Maybe they were putting more energy in than I realized, or wanted to.
Then Card 3, the connection, was The Lovers. Okay, wow. That’s a big card. Not always romantic love, mind you. It often speaks about choices, harmony, values aligning, and communication. Seeing it there, between the slightly bored me (Four of Cups) and the energetic them (Knight of Wands), it felt like the potential for connection was strong, but maybe needing a conscious choice, needing better communication to actually work.
What I Took Away
I sat with those three cards for a while. Didn’t jump to conclusions. The Four of Cups told me I needed to check my own attitude. The Knight of Wands suggested I might be misreading the other person’s energy or intentions. And The Lovers highlighted that the core connection has potential, but it requires choices and communication – it won’t just happen on its own if one person is leaning out (hello, Four of Cups!).
It didn’t magically solve anything, obviously. Tarot doesn’t work like that, for me anyway. But it did shift my perspective. It made me stop focusing on vague confusion and gave me specific things to think about: my own apathy, their possible unseen energy, and the need for conscious choice and talk. Felt less stuck afterwards, more like I had a clearer idea of where I stood and what I could maybe do differently. Just a simple practice, but helpful sometimes.
