Alright, so I decided I wanted to get a tarot reading done. It wasn’t my first time, but previously, I often felt a bit put on the spot when the reader asked what I wanted to focus on. I’d umm and ahh, and felt like I wasn’t making the most of the session. This time, I thought, I’m going to be prepared. I wanted to walk in knowing exactly what I needed clarity on.
Figuring Out What to Ask
So, the first thing I did was just sit down with a notebook. No fancy stuff, just me and a pen. I tried to think about what areas of my life felt a bit confusing or where I felt stuck. Was it work? Relationships? Just my general direction? I let my mind wander a bit and jotted down anything that came up, even if it seemed small or silly at first.
I ended up with a messy list of worries and wonderings. Some were really specific, others super vague. Looking at it, I realized some questions probably wouldn’t work well for tarot. Asking stuff like “Will X happen?” felt like asking for a crystal ball prediction, and I kinda figured that’s not really how tarot works best, at least for me. It feels more like guidance, you know?
I also remembered reading somewhere that asking about other people without them being there isn’t quite right. So, I crossed off questions focused entirely on someone else’s feelings or decisions. My focus had to be on me, my path, my choices, my perspective.
Refining the Questions
Okay, next step was turning that messy list into something useful. I started grouping similar worries together. Then I tried rephrasing the ‘will it happen’ type questions into something more open-ended. Instead of asking if something would happen, I started asking things like:
- What do I need to understand about this situation?
- What perspective am I missing regarding X?
- What can I focus on to move forward with Y?
- What underlying patterns might be affecting Z?
- How can I best navigate the challenges related to A?
See? It shifted the focus from fortune-telling to gaining insight and understanding my own role in things. It felt more empowering, like I was asking for advice on how to steer my own ship, rather than just asking if the weather would be good.
I didn’t write down dozens of questions. I picked maybe three or four main areas that felt most important right now. I wrote them down clearly on a fresh page in my notebook. Having them written down felt solid, like I’d really thought about what I wanted from the reading.
Honestly, just going through this process felt helpful. It made me clarify my own thoughts before I even sat down with the reader. Felt much more grounded and ready this time around. It wasn’t about knowing the future, but about understanding the present and how I could shape my path better.
