Alright, let’s talk about something a bit personal today – how I use tarot cards when thinking about love. Not like a magic crystal ball, mind you, more like a tool to help me sort through my own feelings and thoughts when things get complicated, which, let’s be honest, they often do with matters of the heart.
Getting Started – Setting the Scene
So, first things first. I don’t make a huge ceremony out of it, but I do like a bit of quiet. Usually, I’ll just find a comfy spot, maybe late in the evening when the house is settled. Sometimes I light a candle, sometimes not. The main thing is feeling calm and focused. I grab my go-to deck – it’s pretty worn now, feels like an old friend. Holding the cards, I just take a few deep breaths. I try to clear my head of expectations and just focus on the question, which is usually something open-ended like “What do I need to understand about my approach to love right now?” or “What energy surrounds my connection with this person?”. Not really asking for a yes/no.
Shuffling and Drawing
Then comes the shuffling. This part’s important to me. I shuffle them quite a bit, just letting my hands do the work, pouring my energy and the question into the deck. There’s no right or wrong way, I just shuffle until it feels ‘done’. You kinda get a feeling. When I feel ready, I cut the deck, usually into three piles and then restack them in whichever order feels right at that moment. Then, I draw the cards. I keep it simple, usually just three cards.
- Card 1: This one usually represents me, where I’m at, my current mindset or feelings about love.
- Card 2: This often speaks to the ‘other’ – either a specific person, or the general energy of partnership or connection in my life. Sometimes it shows the dynamic between us.
- Card 3: This card I see as guidance or potential outcome. Not set in stone, more like “Here’s something to focus on” or “This is where things could head if you continue on this path”.
Making Sense of It All
Okay, cards are out. Now, looking at them. I don’t immediately grab a book. I first just look at the pictures. What catches my eye? What’s the vibe? Do the cards seem to flow together or clash? I trust my gut reaction first. For example, seeing the Lovers card doesn’t automatically scream “soulmate found!”. It might be about a choice I need to make regarding values, or harmonizing different parts of myself first.
After my initial thoughts, I might glance at my notes or a trusted book if a card feels really obscure, but I try to relate the meaning back to my specific question and situation. It’s more about self-reflection. Seeing the Ten of Swords might sound scary, but maybe it just reflects that I’m feeling totally drained by a situation and need to accept an ending, rather than literal backstabbing.
Keeping Track – The Journal
I always, always write it down. I have a dedicated notebook. I sketch the layout, note the cards pulled, and jot down my immediate interpretations, feelings, and any insights that came up. This is super important. Why? Because looking back on past readings is where the real gold is. Weeks or months later, I can revisit it and see how things actually played out, or if my understanding of the cards changed with hindsight. It helps me learn my own personal language with the cards.
What I Get Out Of It
So, doing ‘true love tarot’ this way isn’t about predicting the future or finding ‘the one’. For me, it’s a practice. It helps me untangle my own messy thoughts about relationships, understand my patterns, and consider different perspectives. It brings clarity, sometimes comfort, and often pushes me to be more honest with myself about what I truly want and need in love. It’s just a conversation, really – with myself, guided by these fascinating cards.
